In this pandemic situation we are all staying at home all the time. Are we spending the day peacefully with family members? Or sometimes quarreling? Let's see if there is any way to settle the quarrel and live together in this difficult time.
Let's imagine a situation. Suppose, your housekeeper is no more, so the burden of all the housework has fallen on you. Your husband or wife is only busy with their work. In such a situation you have four options or options to contact him-
1. Aggressive: You get angry and say, “Do I do all the work alone? Do you just sit down and eat? How big landlord you are! Blah blah blah…”.
2. Even if it is difficult for you to do the work alone, you are not asking for help. If he thinks anything! You don't want to get into trouble and always want to please others. So he says to his spouse, "I can do it alone." You should rather focus on your work. Your happiness is my happiness". But saying regretfully, "Ugh, so much work! If someone would help a little! No one understands my pain".
3. Degraded-Aggressive: You are not yelling, but are annoyed and sullen. Kalebhadra is also getting angry, especially taking out one's anger on another.
4. Assertive: You can control your emotions. You may be familiar with the turtle trick. In such a situation, you calmly and firmly say to your spouse, “I find it very difficult to do all the housework alone. Tell me what can be done? Can you help me with something?”
Do you prefer number 4 out of four options? Yes, this is actually the most beautiful and fruitful option. Not only at home, but on the streets, in the office-courts, in the chats of the tea-shops everywhere, this kind of communication will help you to claim your rights and bring you peace. However, its implementation is somewhat difficult. That is, to be successful in this type of communication, one has to be very aware of one's emotions and behavior. You have to be patient and consistent. But if you start and manage even a few situations like this, that is also a big success. Then slowly through practice or practice!
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